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To Thine Own Self Be True – Particularly When it Comes to your Wardrobe

on November 3, 2016

This was a typical experience:  I’m in the dressing room trying on a new outfit.  Size is correct; it’s all in colors/patterns I like; it’s fashionably up-to-date.  And yet.  It’s not right – I don’t look “right” and I can’t put my finger on the problem.

One of two things then happens:  I leave with  no purchase, frustrated because I can’t find anything which looks good on me.  Or (more the case), I buy the outfit, take it home, and then never wear it because it doesn’t look right on me and I don’t feel good wearing it.

Is this a familiar situation with anyone else?

Then last year, my dear friend, Hearthrose, performed a miracle – well, actually it was a fashion analysis, but it might as well been a miracle.  You see, I knew that certain colors looked obviously horrendous on me (yellow/orange), but what I didn’t realize were the colors I SHOULD be wearing – the dominant colors which should make up the bulk of my wardrobe.  I also learned WHY some colors didn’t work for me.  I learned about fit; fabric; pattern; proportion, and how to properly dress MY body.

This is the heart of Hearthrose Image Consulting – helping you bring out your beautiful.  I’m not sure how it happens that many of us lose our sense of what we look like, how we want to look, what actually is becoming to us.  I suspect it’s often to do with having children – we start to dress for the job of running after tiny mess-makers and pretty soon, that’s all we are.  Then when the mess-makers evolve a bit and become actual people, we’re still in “that” mode and it’s hard to shift.  The other thing that happens (and trust me, it will happen to every single woman), is we hit the BIG M – and our bodies take on minds of their own such that even if we had actually cultivated an excellent style and were perfectly comfortable in our own skin, that just gets flushed down the toilet and we’re left staring at a body we don’t recognize and which rejects all our clothes.

I have literally turned over my entire closet and my makeup (I’m going to share about that later).  Le Mari, tired of seeing me in my hideous ill-fitting, unflattering “uniforms”, shipped me out to go shopping, and, armed with Hearthie’s treasure trove of information, I reworked my entire wardrobe for fall – pants, skirts, sweaters, tunics, tops, shoes, handbags (yes, I rid myself of over 60 pairs of shoes and about 40 handbags).  There is absolutely NOTHING in my closet that I’m not overjoyed to wear.

I’m going to add a couple of qualifiers here – for one thing, I’m dealing with randomly sporadic episodes of extreme pain – and this meant that I had to change out handbags which aggravates it (seriously, some of my bags weighed over 5lb EMPTY).  My weight can fluctuate depending on the medication I’m taking – so I need a range of sizes so that I can be comfortable.  Some days I’m extremely sick to my stomach, so I need some outfits which are somewhat loose or which have elastic waist bands so that there’s no pressure on my abdomen.  BTW – this led me to discovering some great joggers which I wear all the time – they fit well (not baggy) and I often wear them out with the cuffs rolled up and a cute T-shirt/tunic, and some flats – I look good and, more importantly, I function.

For anyone interested, these are the joggers (ToBeInStyle French Terry Joggers) (they’re not leggings, in case anyone has a particular aversion – I don’t but hey, that’s just me).  The price is insane and I have 4 pair in black and blue.  I also bought these (LA Gear Cotton Joggers), and they’ve been excellent on days when I just can’t get comfortable.

I’m going to close with this – we all need help at various times in our lives – and our image is definitely worth investing a little time and money.  We should take care of ourselves, feel good about our appearance, embrace our beautiful, and shed those things which detract.  Check out my girlfriend at Hearthrose Image Consulting and get started on refining or redefining your image of you.

A Bientot!




14 responses to “To Thine Own Self Be True – Particularly When it Comes to your Wardrobe

  1. Elspeth says:

    Excellent post. I am doing some wardrobe evaluation presently as well.

    • Maeve says:

      Thanks Els! It’s been a very good exercise for me. And I have found a measure of peace in understanding that, at least for the present, I have to have a range of clothing to meet the needs-of-the-day. That was a hard one for me to accept, but once I did, it made everything so much easier. I also decided to give myself a break and shop for my actual life-style, not one others have or think I should have. I think a lot of it was emotional/psychological – it’s amazing the barriers we can erect ourselves and then all the energy we expend maintaining them. I’m so over it all.

      I hope you’ll be sharing some of your wardrobe makeover – I’m kind of nosy that way, LOL

  2. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I don’t have that problem. I have a fur coat and it’s always in style.
    Here is the gratuitious bear video.

  3. hearthie says:

    -blushes- Thank you so much, Maeve. 🙂

  4. Andrea says:

    I’m really interested to read posts on this. Being an older mum of little ones, who’s going through an early big M, I can fully relate to what your saying. I trying to get back to ‘me’ whilst trying to shift some pounds. One really impacts on the other. Great work xx

    • Maeve says:

      Hi Andrea! I’ve been loving reading about your adventures in France.

      I’m actually planning on doing a series of posts about menopause so let me know if there’s anything you’re particularly interested in reading/discussing. I’m also going to be sharing some more of my new favorite fashion blogs aimed at women over 40.

      So glad you liked the post! 😀

  5. hearthie says:

    I’ll raise a glass to throwing eggs at your body’s idea of surprises ….

  6. ttb2 says:

    Maeve – I’ve been thinking about you. ❤ I've wanted to use Hearthie's service too, but I am broke.

    • ttb2 says:

      Whoops, this is Taylor!

    • Maeve says:

      hi taylor! get her book online at amazon – a great place to start! I’m in such a funk – been on meds making me freakin crazy and haven’t been able to write at all – I finish up from work and i’m so exhausted I just collapse into bed. But there is good news – the thing hanging out in my brain appears to be benign, so I can scratch that off my list of perpetual worries!

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